New hustlers: You owe it to yourself to zone out and avoid people who try to put even an iota of doubt in your head about your abilities.
Feedback is amazing. Especially from your customers and mentors. Seek it. But seek it from people who've been and overcome what you're overcoming. Not someone who has an "opinion" on it. Because, guess what...
Every single last person on the planet will have an opinion on everything in the world.
A sous-chef at a restaurant can have a strong opinion about Chris Hemsworth's choice to stay with or leave Marvel.
Doesn’t make him informed enough to make that opinion.
Most of people impose their own insecurities and doubts on other people. And the person on the receiving side can mistake that for wise advice.
Telling you from my mistakes.
An iota of doubt is enough for you to not give it your best shot.
And if you don't give your best shot, you, as an entrepreneur, are like a hesitant boxer in a boxing ring.
In short, fucked.
Your mind is your asset. Your mindset is your weapon against the daily bombardment of massive shit that WILL come at you from all sides.
That's the life of an entrepreneur.
I don't care if that's your family, your current friends, your ONLY friends...
Stay away from them. Don't discuss ideas with them.
Actively seek new people. Go to meetups. No meetups? Host a meetup.
But get out.
You deserve to save every ounce of time and energy you can. You will be the average of 5 people you spend most of your time with. Don't fuck around.
*Edit: I had no idea this would help so many of you. Thanks for all the awards. Although, I see a bunch of criticism as well which helps me understand how I might have missed including a few points like how blocking out negativity and naysayers doesn’t mean one doesn’t seek feedback and isn’t open to criticism. Feedback is critical to any kind of success. But it’s important to understand who it’s coming from and why. Especially when it’s family / friends, coz they are emotionally invested in you as well, their NO may be coming from a place of insecurity or a 100 other things.
Someone suggested “believability score” in the comments. It’s a great concept by Ray Dalio’s book (Principles: Life and Work). A good read. It’s basically about making sure the person youre getting feedback from has some experience / credibility in the subject.
Also, for a supportive community of founders / makers, IndieHackers is a great place. Eventbrite for hosting meetups around you. Give away free coffee / etc. to get people excited to come (unless it’s virtual, then maybe try ordering one of them a Tshirt or something). Just random ideas.
But don’t stay stuck with people who don’t believe in you. Life is too short for that. Love them. Have compassion for them. But get out.
The entrepreneur’s journey is hard as it is. Avoid struggle where you can.
Here’s a cool experiment Nat Geo did on the influence of your environment on your performance.
All the best!